Many girls and women, dear reader, grow up as “girly girls” or have mothers, sisters, or other feminine role models in their lives who have shown them how to embrace their femininity, make it their own, and be a unique feminine woman comfortable in her own skin.
Others, however, don’t grow up under such circumstances – they must find their femininity on their own.
“One is not born, but rather becomes a woman” – Simone de Beauvoir
To “become a woman” and find your femininity, dear reader, means to take your own unique personality and values, and give them feminine form and energy.
The process of growing into your feminine self begins with much experimentation.
All women, even those with strong feminine role models, must experiment to find what works for them and what doesn’t.
One form this takes is in clothing shopping – girls and women will spend hours upon hours at the mall and in stores trying on clothing. This isn’t just finding the perfect outfit for a certain occasion or finding what one will wear to school or work, and the process is an ongoing one. What is really happening underneath this behavior is feminine experimentation.
A girl or woman is trying on different versions, different styles, different personalities, and different statements when she is putting on a new article or clothing or new shoes.
Many women love this process, and others claim to hate it. Either way, it’s just one arena of life in which girls and women learn to channel and express their feminine personas.
There are as many different versions of femininity as there are women in the world.
“Femininity for me means happiness and freedom… freedom of being who you are in whatever shape or size you com in.”
Femininity is also a woman’s way of being. That is, how she carries herself, how she affects the people around her, and what is most important to her.
Some women, for example may have a femininity of deep peace and bring calm and serenity to all situations and people they come into contact with – they are the cool glass of water on a summer’s day.
Others bring enthusiasm, light, and joy wherever they go – they are the happy go lucky starbursts transforming the mundane and the banal into novelty and wonder.
Others carry in them and with them wherever they go and undercurrent of deep passion and fierce power, energizing their surroundings with seduction, intrigue, and daring emotion.
So, dear reader, if you are still struggling to become the feminine woman that you yearn to be internally, know that it is a process of becoming and that every woman must find herself in her own way, and keep experimenting in any way you can (: