Kindness, dear reader, is a quality in a woman that will make her beautiful, both in appearance and in personality.
“If you have good thoughts, they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.” – Roald Dahl
The late designer, Oscar de la Renta, noted it as the most important attribute after confidence.
A woman that is outwardly attractive, but is found to be lacking in kindness after greater acquaintance will lose all appeal and any magnetism she had; luxury and beauty must be earned. She will attract others who think and behave as she does and will have a difficult time enjoying the good and simple things in life, such a child’s warm smile or a beautiful flower.
Moreover, beauty in such a woman looks garish and out of place.
As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a lovely woman who lacks discretion – Proverbs 11:22
Lack of discretion, dear reader, includes a lack of manners, kindness, and therefore character. The stress and difficulty such a woman invites into her life will quickly destroy whatever beauty she once had.
Unkindness stems from a lack of love, either towards oneself, or towards others. Kindness is really only a behavior and effect that results from a general feeling of love and acceptance towards all of creation, and most of all towards oneself.
A woman who thinks negatively about herself when she beholds herself in the mirror is being unkind and immature. This same woman who would never dream of telling a friend, acquaintance, or even a stranger that she is “fat” or unattractive, will think and tell herself those things. With others she will be forgiving and understanding; she should strive to adopt the same attitude towards herself.
The woman who is capable of jealousy, envy, or rudeness towards others likely suffers from a greater number of vices. This type of unkindness comes in many forms:
- Pointing out the flaws of others – done out of either a spirit of arrogance and superiority or because she is at least subconsciously aware of her own and must attention away from them
- Becoming frustrated with those who commit social gaffes
- Gossiping and slander
- A lack of thought/thoughtfulness
- Anything that has the potential to make another human being feel bad or less about themselves
It is also possible for a woman to act in a way that is unkind when this is not her intention. This almost always comes from a lack of thought and is a lesser error than when unkindness is committed intentionally. It can also be remedied more easily, usually with a simple and heartfelt apology and a resolution to not make the same error in the future.
The woman who behaves with the intent of causing hurt and negative feelings must take the time to really heal herself and move from a mindset of hatred, scarcity, and fear to one of love. She acts in this way because she feels that other people do not understand, empathize, and sympathize with the difficulty she is going through. She believes that if she causes them to feel something of what she is feeling, they will understand more thoroughly and give her the love she so desperately needs. This belief is something she must overcome to truly heal herself and become a kind person. She first needs to give herself that love instead of trying to force it from others. She can do this in many ways:
- Taking time off alone or with close family and friends for reflection, rest, and relaxation
- Appreciating the beauty of nature
- Going to art museums
- Growing a garden, or simply purchasing flowers for herself
- Spending time with a loving pet or with young children
- Spending time doing something creative, or a hobby she enjoys doing
And much more.
Dear reader, watch the following video carefully and you will see the truth of this.
This woman believes that by attacking a celebrity with whom she doesn’t agree, she can fill herself up and acquire positivity. However, nothing could be further from the truth, and unfortunately she doesn’t realize this.
A quote I absolutely love captures this truth perfectly:
“Blowing out someone else’s candle won’t make yours shine any brighter.”
Kim Kardashian may not be aware of it, but she subconsciously knows, as a woman, that this person is in need of greater love and happiness, and this is the reason why she suggests that they spend time doing something that the “hater” loves, painting. It is also the reason why she never, at any point, responds to the criticism with irritation or anger.
A kind woman would never concern herself with the activities of another woman or a celebrity with the intent of criticizing her because she is simply too busy loving herself and life, and does not have the time to consider the flaws of another human being. She has the ability to dismiss from her mind any sort of negativity or bad behavior from others as simply ignorance and lack of understanding. And she feels deep sympathy for people who don’t act to the level she does, because she knows that it really has nothing to do with her, and everything to do with the way those people feel inside.