For any woman looking to develop her femininity and class, she must eschew any sort of pride or arrogance in herself. There are few qualities that are more of a turn-off in a great woman (or a man, for that matter) than these, and if she has them, she will quickly lose whatever support and trust she previously had.
There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Confidence will enable a woman to overcome any difficulties or fears she might face, will arrogance will serve as a roadblock and a limitation that prevents her from learning what she needs to learn to improve.
“Proud people breed sad sorrows for themselves.” – Emily Brontë
Pride is a vice that will blind a woman and distort her awareness – in order to maintain it, she will have to at times ignore or deny the truth. For example, a fashion designer might believe her ideas are superior to those of her employees or those of her competitors. This may not otherwise be debilitating, but for the woman with a false sense of pride, they are. That is because anything that will contradict her constructed self-image, she will be forced to either humble herself and listen to advice she knows, in her heart, to be true, or deny it to maintain that image. If she cannot let go of her pride, it means she values her constructed, artificial image above what she knows to be true. She goes against her intuition and better judgment.
“All men make mistakes, but a good man yields when he knows his course is wrong, and repairs the evil. The only crime is pride.” – Sophocles
This often has unfortunate results for her. For instance, that fashion designer may lose her employees or customers, or even go out of business.
At the very least, she will certainly lose credibility. Others around her will learn that they can’t fully trust her to do what is right and ethical in every situation, and therefore, might fail to represent their own interests when they need it.
When pride comes, then comes shame; but with the humble is wisdom. – Proverbs 11:2
By pride comes only contention, but with the well-advised is wisdom. – Proverbs 13:10
Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall. – Proverbs 16:18
Even more of a loss for her is that she sabotages her own trust and respect in herself, and it might be until something disastrous or catastrophic happens that she is able to humble herself.