Archive | August 2015

Feminine Cuisine: Tropical Medley

tropical medley


  • banana, sliced
  • 5-7 fresh strawberries, sliced
  • handful of fresh blueberries
  • diced pineapple (1/4 cup)
  • cubed melon (1/4 cup)
  • cubed cantaloupe (1/4 cup)
  • fresh whole coconut

Preparation Time: about 10 minutes


Place banana on one side of a plate.  Mix all other ingredients (save for the coconut) together thoroughly and place on the other  rest of the plate.  Open coconut with a heavy knife and decant the juice into a glass.  The fleshy white interior and the juice can be eaten.


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Feminine Cuisine: Breakfast Medley

breakfast medley


  • Smoked lox (pink salmon)
  • fresh red grapes
  • half of an avocado
  • quarter of a mango
  • cream cheese
  • two english muffins
  • basil (dried)

Preparation time: 5-10 minutes


Toast two english muffins and then spread evenly with cream cheese.  Top with thinly sliced lox and set on a plate.  Dice the mango and avocado and place in separate corners of the plate, with a small bunch of red grapes in between.  Sprinkle the basil over the english muffins and avocado.


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The Power of Association

The feminine woman of excellence understands that while she can be kind and loving to all of humanity, not all of humanity are fit to be her close associates, members of her inner circle.

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That is because, dear reader, we are more affected by our environment and the people around us than we like to admit.  We become exactly what we think and believe, and the mentality of the people you trust and keep close to you will almost invariably become your mentality as well, unless you make a conscious choice to resist it.

If you wish to become wealthy, it’s very unlikely that a person who is in poverty will teach you how you can become so; likewise, if you wish to be happy, loving, kind, and generous, it’s unlikely that a person who is negative, hateful, self-centered, and miserly is going to help you become that person.

When selecting friends and associates, you should seek out those with attributes you would like to develop in your own self; your inner character and outer circumstances will to a large extent be shaped by those choices.

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This is by no means a new concept, but few truly understand how deep this goes, or how relevant it is to their day life and personal affairs.

Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm – Proverbs 13:20

Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers – Psalm 1:1

Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned? – Proverbs 6:27

But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler – not even to eat with such a one – 1 Corinthians 5:11

Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare – Proverbs 22:24-25

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Keep away from any brother who is walking in idleness and not in accord with the tradition that you received from us – 2 Thessalonians 3:6

One who is righteous is a guide to his neighbor, but the way of the wicked leads them astray – Proverbs 12:26

Do not be deceived, bad company ruins good morals – 1 Corinthians 15:33

Think about it carefully, dear reader; when have you ever witnessed a great woman keeping close friendship with someone who is not bettering her as a woman, in some way?  Sure, she may, and often does, spend her time helping those less fortunate than herself, but they are not the people whom she confides in for serious concerns and does not share too much of her inner self with them.  They are not her equals and are simply not qualified to help her better herself on a moral, intellectual, material, or emotional level.

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Great women will keep out of their inner circle those who:

  • Gossip or slander
  • Are boisterous, loud, or uncontrolled
  • Dress in a manner that shows lack of self-respect or morality
  • Are contentious or overly argumentative
  • Lack empathy
  • Criticize or ridicule any other person
  • Are jealous or envious
  • Complain frequently
  • Cheat, lie or steal

Association with anyone who engages in these activities will be damaging to a woman and her femininity.  Have you ever wondered why you are so put off and repulsed by someone who insults you or otherwise emits negativity?  It is because you already know, instinctively and emotionally, if not cognitively, that such behavior will eventually harm you if you allow yourself to be exposed to it for too long.

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Exposure to negativity, dear reader, has the power to destroy one’s health and even one’s life itself.  It is one of the reasons why a man will react so strongly and quickly to avoid a woman who “nags” him, losing whatever love and affection he once had for her, even if at one point he loved her deeply:

“The wife of Count Leo Tolstoi discovered that—after it was too late. Before she passed away, she confessed to her daughters: ‘I was the cause of your father’s death.’ Her daughters didn’t reply. They were both crying. They knew their mother was telling the truth. They knew she had killed him with her constant complaining, her eternal criticisms, and her eternal nagging. Yet Count Tolstoi and his wife ought, by all odds, to have been happy. He was one of the most famous novelists of all time. Two of his masterpieces, War and Peace and Anna Karenina will forever shine brightly among the literary glories of earth.”

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This is why it is important for a woman to guard against any negativity in herself and in those she associates with; she must know how to set and maintain boundaries so that she can properly honor herself, as a woman.  For example, association with “friends” who are secretly (or openly) jealous or envious of her, will cause a successful and aspiring woman sadness and other negative emotions, if she truly cares about those people and wishes for them to be close to her.  Those emotions will be unhealthy for her, both physically and mentally.  She may even begin to try to downplay her accomplishments or hide her attributes and excellence in a form of “apology,” which is a great dis-service to her own unique and divine being.

In the worst case scenario, she may even pick up on the habit and learn to wish ill or feel negativity at news of others’ success and joy, even if she had never experienced that in the past.  This is the primary reason why it is of utmost importance to be highly selective about who you share your joy, success, hurt, and truest self with; only a few should be privy to your feminine and human vulnerability.

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“Surround yourself with people who are only going to lift you higher” – Oprah Winfrey

“I think it’s important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state – meaning surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.” – Heidi Klum

“You are who you surround yourself with. I know that’s such a cliché quote, but it’s true.” – Selena Gomez

Living within One’s Means

The feminine woman of excellence, dear reader, lives within her means.

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She understands that having too much debt, spending irresponsibly, and engaging in “retail therapy”, while they may make her feel better temporarily in the short term, will not do her any good in the long term, and are unhealthy and unsustainable.

A woman must either dedicate time to creating a budget for herself, or hire an accountant who does this for her.  The feminine woman of excellence who knows how to make a budget keeps careful track of what her monthly living expenses are and what her income is.  She spends wisely and carefully, always choosing deliberately and carefully quality over quantity and does not make any “impulse purchases” that she regrets later.

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There is no dignity quite so impressive, and no one independence quite so important, as living within your means. – Calvin Coolidge

The woman of excellence understands that in order to be a fully independent adult and in control of her own circumstances, she must be in control of her budget.

Not all debt, however, is “bad” debt.  Examples of “good” debt include:

  • necessary car loan debt
  • student loan debt used for furthering one’s education with a high-quality and worthwhile program that will likely yield large returns on that investment
  • other investments

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It does not matter if she makes $20,000 per year or 2 million, a woman is a responsible adult when she controls her spending to match her resources and invests wisely.

At the end of the day, no article of clothing will ever feel as good as being responsible does – knowing that you can pay all of your bills and have something left over to save afterwards gives a peace of mind that is well worth any self-restraint a woman needs to exercise to achieve it.

Dealing with Jealousy and Envy in Others

One of the things you must learn, dear reader, as a feminine woman of excellence, or an aspiring one, is how to deal with jealousy and envy in others.

As a beautiful, stylish, intelligent, and attractive woman you will absolutely, without a doubt, encounter this unpleasant phenomenon and need to understand how to respond to it.

First, you must understand why it happens.

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Jealousy and envy is an emotion that occurs because another person wants something that you have, and believe that while they are entitled to that something in question, also believe that they will not be able to get it.

The emotion is hatred and frustration in response to those beliefs.

For example, say you have been working out quite diligently for the last several months, and have achieved some great results, but a close friend is not happy for you.

The deep underlying reason is something along the lines of her own insecurities about her body.  Perhaps she has also been trying to become healthier and get into shape, but hasn’t yet succeeded with her efforts.  When she sees you achieving what she is working so hard to achieve, she becomes frustrated with herself, perhaps slightly depressed, or even angry.

This entire slew of negative emotions is referred to as jealousy.

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There is a “good” jealousy and a bad one, dear reader, and this type of jealousy described here, is the bad kind.

An example of the “good” kind of jealousy is when you are afraid of losing something and so respond and act in ways to keep it.  For instance, a man may get jealous if he notices his wife or girlfriend flirting with another man.  He will likely get slightly angry and bring up the incident to her, because he is motivated by a fear that she is losing interest in him.

However the “bad” sort of jealousy, is something you must be very careful with.

Many women make the mistake of downplaying its significance and perhaps dismissing it as coming from those with inherent insecurities and poor etiquette.  While this is undoubtedly true, it is also true that jealousy can be an incredibly dangerous emotion and have serious consequences.

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A woman must make efforts to deflect it, even if she can’t entirely eliminate it.

Appearing better than other is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses.  Envy creates silent enemies.  Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.

Never underestimate the power of envy. Occasionally reveal a weakness, defect,
or anxiety, or find new friends. It is the people in your own circle of peers who will
be the first to envy your success.

• Envy is often a problem for people who have great natural talent. You may think
you are charming people with your natural talent when in fact they are coming to
hate you for it.

• To deflect envy, employ a display of weakness, or a harmless vice.

• Envy is disguised sometimes as excessive praise, or slander and criticism. Win
your revenge by ignoring the envious.

The correct response to another’s envy or jealousy, when you notice it, is to immediately downplay it – diffuse any feelings of insecurity in another and be certain not to be overly~familiar with someone that you know is envious.

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Secondly, the wise woman tries to deflect envy before it happens at all.

The way this is accomplished is by showing and displaying far less than she has.  The smart woman never, ever, under any circumstances, reveals all of her cards.

She never discusses openly, for example, her financial situation, or the state of her marriage or relationship.  No matter if either is going well or poorly, she keeps this to herself and small circle of close associates.

The reason why she does is to keep the dangerous power of latent jealousy at bay.

Pearls – Part One

Pearls, dear reader, are the ultimate feminine accessory.

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This is because they are the one article of jewelry that is worn exclusively by women.

And best of all, dear, reader, pearls are appropriate at all times, from day wear to office wear, to more formal situations or evenings out.

“Pearls are always appropriate. ” – Jackie Kennedy

“A woman needs ropes and ropes of pearls” – Coco Chanel

Pearls are a symbol of wisdom through experience, and at the same time of innocence and purity.  The also are associated with wealth, beauty, and elegance.

The dictionary defines them a pearl as “one that is highly regarded for its beauty or value.”

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Formed from a secretion in response to an irritant under an oyster’s shell, pearls are found deep in the sea, rather than far underground within the earth like other gemstones.

Because of their uniqueness, pearls have been prized and admired for centuries, dating as far back as ancient Greece.

Legend has it that Egyptian empress Cleopatra dissolved a pearl in a glass of vinegar and drank it in one motion in order to prove her wealth and power to her lover Mark Anthony.

Prominent icons since, including Elizabeth Taylor, Marilyn Monroe, and many others, have also worn them and incorporated their symbolism into their image.

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Interestingly, pearls have also been referenced by many religions across the world.

The Bible cites them in the context of their beauty and value in many instances, as does the Quran:

“Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.” – Matthew 7:6

“Gardens of Eternity will they enter: therein will they be adorned with bracelets of gold and pearls; and their garments there will be of silk.” 35:33

When shopping for pearls, dear reader, keep an eye out for quality as well.  Pearls are judged based on the size, smoothness, shape, and brightness of the stone – the rounder, larger, smoother and brighter the pearls are the better.

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Coconut: Health and Beauty Superfood

Coconut, or Cocos nucifera, is the fruit of the palm tree and has been known as a panacea, easing symptoms of for a spectacularly wide range of ailments.

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Pacific Islanders and peoples native to the tropics have taken advantage of the coconut and even dubbed it the “tree of life” for centuries; with improvement in world distribution and communications, it has now become mainstream in western society as well.

Coconut oil or extract is used in a variety of beauty products, from shampoos to scrubs, and has been known to confer a plethora of benefits for women:

  • Hair care: in India and Southeast Asia, it is commonly used as a conditioner to repair damaged hair
  • Teeth whitening
  • Skin exfoliation and smoothing
  • Anti-aging, wrinkle and under-eye bag treatment
  • Lip care
  • Shaving cream
  • Acne treatment
  • Nail maintenance

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The Coconut Research Centre gives a long list of the medicinal and health benefits:

  • Kills viruses that cause influenza, herpes, measles, hepatitis C, SARS, AIDS, and other illnesses.
  • Kills bacteria that cause ulcers, throat infections, urinary tract infections, gum disease and cavities, pneumonia, and gonorrhea, and other diseases.
  • Kills fungi and yeasts that cause candidiasis, ringworm, athlete’s foot, thrush, diaper rash, and other infections.
  • Expels or kills tapeworms, lice, giardia, and other parasites.
  • Provides a nutritional source of quick energy.
  • Boosts energy and endurance, enhancing physical and athletic performance.
  • Improves digestion and absorption of other nutrients including vitamins, minerals, and amino acids.
  • Improves insulin secretion and utilization of blood glucose.
  • Relieves stress on pancreas and enzyme systems of the body.
  • Reduces symptoms associated with pancreatitis.
  • Helps relieve symptoms and reduce health risks associated with diabetes.
  • Reduces problems associated with malabsorption syndrome and cystic fibrosis.
  • Improves calcium and magnesium absorption and supports the development of strong bones and teeth.
  • Helps protect against osteoporosis.
  • Helps relieve symptoms associated with gallbladder disease.
  • Relieves symptoms associated with Crohn’s disease, ulcerative colitis, and stomach ulcers.
  • Improves digestion and bowel function.
  • Relieves pain and irritation caused by hemorrhoids.
  • Reduces inflammation.
  • Supports tissue healing and repair.
  • Supports and aids immune system function.
  • Helps protect the body from breast, colon, and other cancers.
  • Is heart healthy; improves cholesterol ratio reducing risk of heart disease.
  • Protects arteries from injury that causes atherosclerosis and thus protects against heart disease.
  • Helps prevent periodontal disease and tooth decay.
  • Functions as a protective antioxidant.
  • Helps to protect the body from harmful free radicals that promote premature aging and degenerative disease.
  • Does not deplete the body’s antioxidant reserves like other oils do.
  • Improves utilization of essential fatty acids and protects them from oxidation.
  • Helps relieve symptoms associated with chronic fatigue syndrome.
  • Relieves symptoms associated with benign prostatic hyperplasia (prostate enlargement).
  • Reduces epileptic seizures.
  • Helps protect against kidney disease and bladder infections.
  • Dissolves kidney stones.
  • Helps prevent liver disease.
  • Is lower in calories than all other fats.
  • Supports thyroid function.
  • Promotes loss of excess weight by increasing metabolic rate.
  • Is utilized by the body to produce energy in preference to being stored as body fat like other dietary fats.
  • Helps prevent obesity and overweight problems.
  • Applied topically helps to form a chemical barrier on the skin to ward of infection.
  • Reduces symptoms associated the psoriasis, eczema, and dermatitis.
  • Supports the natural chemical balance of the skin.
  • Softens skin and helps relieve dryness and flaking.
  • Prevents wrinkles, sagging skin, and age spots.
  • Promotes healthy looking hair and complexion.
  • Provides protection from damaging effects of ultraviolet radiation from the sun.
  • Helps control dandruff.
  • Does not form harmful by-products when heated to normal cooking temperature like other vegetable oils do.
  • Has no harmful or discomforting side effects.
  • Is completely non-toxic to humans.

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Coconut can be purchased in several forms – milk, water, oil, extracts, or even as the raw fruit itself.   The water is packed with nutrients and minerals, and lacks the dense lipids (fats) present in the oil that comes from the white flesh of the fruit.  It is also fully pure and sterile – army doctors even used it in place of glucose during IV treatment on the Pacific front in the Second World War.

For women, the coconut is a symbol of fertility and is especially beneficial as an all-natural health and beauty aid.