One of the things you must learn, dear reader, as a feminine woman of excellence, or an aspiring one, is how to deal with jealousy and envy in others.
As a beautiful, stylish, intelligent, and attractive woman you will absolutely, without a doubt, encounter this unpleasant phenomenon and need to understand how to respond to it.
First, you must understand why it happens.
Jealousy and envy is an emotion that occurs because another person wants something that you have, and believe that while they are entitled to that something in question, also believe that they will not be able to get it.
The emotion is hatred and frustration in response to those beliefs.
For example, say you have been working out quite diligently for the last several months, and have achieved some great results, but a close friend is not happy for you.
The deep underlying reason is something along the lines of her own insecurities about her body. Perhaps she has also been trying to become healthier and get into shape, but hasn’t yet succeeded with her efforts. When she sees you achieving what she is working so hard to achieve, she becomes frustrated with herself, perhaps slightly depressed, or even angry.
This entire slew of negative emotions is referred to as jealousy.
There is a “good” jealousy and a bad one, dear reader, and this type of jealousy described here, is the bad kind.
An example of the “good” kind of jealousy is when you are afraid of losing something and so respond and act in ways to keep it. For instance, a man may get jealous if he notices his wife or girlfriend flirting with another man. He will likely get slightly angry and bring up the incident to her, because he is motivated by a fear that she is losing interest in him.
However the “bad” sort of jealousy, is something you must be very careful with.
Many women make the mistake of downplaying its significance and perhaps dismissing it as coming from those with inherent insecurities and poor etiquette. While this is undoubtedly true, it is also true that jealousy can be an incredibly dangerous emotion and have serious consequences.
A woman must make efforts to deflect it, even if she can’t entirely eliminate it.
Appearing better than other is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.
Never underestimate the power of envy. Occasionally reveal a weakness, defect,
or anxiety, or find new friends. It is the people in your own circle of peers who will
be the first to envy your success.
• Envy is often a problem for people who have great natural talent. You may think
you are charming people with your natural talent when in fact they are coming to
hate you for it.
• To deflect envy, employ a display of weakness, or a harmless vice.
• Envy is disguised sometimes as excessive praise, or slander and criticism. Win
your revenge by ignoring the envious.
The correct response to another’s envy or jealousy, when you notice it, is to immediately downplay it – diffuse any feelings of insecurity in another and be certain not to be overly~familiar with someone that you know is envious.
Secondly, the wise woman tries to deflect envy before it happens at all.
The way this is accomplished is by showing and displaying far less than she has. The smart woman never, ever, under any circumstances, reveals all of her cards.
She never discusses openly, for example, her financial situation, or the state of her marriage or relationship. No matter if either is going well or poorly, she keeps this to herself and small circle of close associates.
The reason why she does is to keep the dangerous power of latent jealousy at bay.