First impressions, dear reader, are far more important to the outcome of a woman’s life than she may imagine.
Unfortunately, those split-second judgements are often all a person has to go on, and most decisions that affect a woman will be based on the way she presents herself, or what she appears to be at first glance, even when it’s not totally accurate.
It takes just a quick glance, maybe three seconds, for someone to evaluate you when you meet for the first time. In this short time, the other person forms an opinion about you based on your appearance, your body language, your demeanor, your mannerisms, and how you are dressed.
What this means, dear reader, is that once a first impression is made, it’s done and there’s not much likelihood of changing that opinion. Therefore, it is in your interest to put in the effort to make sure that you come across positively in that first encounter – in fact, it can even be used to your advantage, as you can make those instantaneous judgements stick.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the past five years of working as a journalist it’s that success can come down to the two seconds after you first meet someone.
First impressions tend to be self-reinforcing beliefs; once formed, a person will unconsciously look for evidence that confirms that initial survey and tend to dismiss observations that contradict it, rather than forming an entirely new mental model of what you are like.
For instance, the woman who looks frumpy and disheveled at her first interview will always look frumpy and disheveled to those who first met her on that day, and the woman who is dressed classily, smart, and sharp will tend to come across that way in the future as well.
The great thing about first impressions, dear reader, is that while they may not be fair or even true, they are completely under your control.
First impressions can make or break your career.
We turn people into an embodiment of the few facts we know about them.
We believe what we first see because it’s the easiest option — even if it ends up being false.
If your first impression is off, no amount of charm will help you to recover.
When making a first impression, a woman needs to make sure that she appears:
- well dressed – that means neat, tidy, classy, stylish and well-groomed with good hygiene (think about it – it is going to be nearly impossible to make a good first impression if you reek of body odor or you are in a state of disarray).
- warm, friendly
- calm, at ease, relaxed
- firm handshake
- good eye contact
Of course, dear reader, dressing well is stressed because once a woman is dressed her best, the following items (relaxation, confidence, etc.) become much easier to accomplish and are natural byproducts (: