Confidence, dear reader, is a vital and unmistakable quality of the high-value feminine woman.
The confident woman is one who enters a room with no fear and is sure of herself, what she believes, and knows her strengths and weaknesses.
She is not the woman who believes that she has no faults, but she is the woman who has come to terms with her flaws and accepted the fact that even with them she is still an amazing person worthy of respect and love.
And, dear reader, this is true.
No matter what your perceived flaws, be it anything from unwise life choices to an oversized mid-section, your positive qualities and strengths most certainly outweigh these.
The confident woman focuses on what she does have to offer, not on what she lacks.
Many women wish to be more confident but are held back by insecurities. These can be overcome not only by focusing on one’s strengths rather than weaknesses, but also by understanding that anyone who would point out a woman’s flaws and somehow try to use them to make her less of the amazing, beautiful person she is has many insecurities of her own.
A confident woman doesn’t attack other women, she compliments and builds them. This is because, dear reader, attacks of this nature come from a place of fear and insecurity. A woman who insults or belittles another does so because she feels threatened inside.
That being said, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
Confidence is getting to know all of yourself, and accepting that even with your short-comings, there is nothing to be ashamed of and that you are still worthy and deserving of love, most of all from yourself.
Arrogance is the belief that you are superior to others and tends to gloss over or deny flaws and short-comings in oneself. It is the belief that you are infallible or perfect and is always based on a distorted or incorrect image of yourself. This character flaw is not so strong or lasting as genuine confidence because of this. Once forced to see herself clearly, a woman who is arrogant will often crumble to pieces because she had relied on a false self-image to carry on.
Pride comes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall. – Proverbs 16:19
Confidence, however, is crucial to a woman’s wellbeing and health. The woman who is living in the space of insecurity is not completely herself and is not fully living to her potential.
She is shrinking herself and her abilities (perhaps even out of a fear of appearing arrogant or selfish), and is suppressing important emotions in doing so.
Ways to build confidence include:
- taking time for self-reflection, to really get to know oneself (strengths and weaknesses)
- approaching oneself kindly, as you would a best friend
- being less critical, more forgiving
- overcoming small and large fears (in steps over time)
- standing up to bullies or critics
- working out
- practicing mindfulness
- eating and living healthily
- taking part in hobbies and activities that bring you joy
- adopting a relentlessly positive mindset