Too many women, dear reader, seem to believe in everyone but themselves.
They are dissatisfied with their lives, yet don’t seem to realize that their own view of themselves is likely the cause; these women are not living up to their full potential. They may tell themselves they aren’t good enough, aren’t smart enough, aren’t experienced enough, aren’t pretty enough, or just plain are not enough for whatever it is they hope for and dream about.
Unfortunately, dear reader, the only truth is whatever you believe to be true about yourself.
“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right” – Henry Ford
So what is a woman to do then, to get herself out of such a catch-22, a negative feedback loop where her own lack of self-belief fuels failure and dismal results which in turn feed her low self-esteem?
Perhaps one of the most effective ways to break out of that cycle is to meet people (or if that isn’t possible, learn as much second-hand) about successful people who are doing whatever it is you hope to do and through that to understand that these women (or men) are no better than you. Once you see that it doesn’t take some larger than life or perfect woman to achieve what you want, that these people who have accomplished what you hope to have just as many flaws, if not more, than you do, it becomes a lot easier to believe in yourself. After all, someone else, someone equally or less talented than yourself has done it.
Most of us wish for success and new accomplishments, dear reader, because it does have that effect – it tends to magnify a person, perhaps beyond what is actually “true.” But it doesn’t matter. Because once a woman believes in herself and her ability to go after what it is she wants, she is certain to get it.
Why? Dear reader, people cannot resist certainty. They do not like to feel any sort of doubt or uncertainty (it is psychologically uncomfortable), so they are instantly attracted to people who display the opposite – extreme confidence, self-belief, and a certainty that they will prevail no matter what.
“Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to solution.”
So whatever it is, dear reader, that you are telling yourself you’re not good enough for or can’t do, simply take a step in the right direction towards that goal (:
And even if you’re first attempt (or first several, hundred, or even thousand) attempts don’t work, don’t let go of the belief that you can achieve your goals, because dear reader, the truth is that those seemingly different and more accomplished people are there making it happen are different only in that they had the courage to try, and the wherewithal to keep trying through setbacks, roadblocks, and even avalanches in their way.