Belief, dear reader, in what one can do and what one can be is the limiting factor to what a woman accomplishes in her life.
You have surely heard the saying many times, “whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t you are right” and it is true.
This is because it is human nature to conserve our efforts and only put in the hard work towards goals and ambitions that we believe are achievable.
Simply put, if, deep down, you do not truly believe something is possible, you will not put in the effort necessary to achieve it. It becomes a so-called self-fulfilling prophecy.
“The mental picture of oneself was of the utmost significance in determining a person’s success and life choices. Why then do people continue to look at themselves in a way that is less than successful? Why do people set goals and make plans, when they truly do not believe that they have the ability within themselves to accomplish them? When reaching the goal becomes so real to us that no amount of work becomes too much. We literally become who we want to be in our minds, long before we become it in life.”
A perfect example of this principle in action was during the turn-around of the Green Bay Packers shortly after Vince Lombardi was hired as the new team coach:
Lombardi was a motivational genius who saw everything in psychological terms. To him the National Football League teams were virtually equal in talent. The differences lay in attitude and morale: reversing the Packers’ defeatism would translate into wins, which would lift their morale, which in turn would bring more wins. Lombardi knew he had to approach his players indirectly–had to trick them into changing. He began with a show of confidence, talking as if he assumed they were winners who had fallen on bad times. That got under their skins, far more than they realized. Then, in his practices, Lombardi didn’t make demands–a defensive, whiny approach that betrays insecurity. Instead he changed the practices’ spirit, making them quiet, intense, focused, workmanlike. He knew that willpower is tied to what you believe possible; expand that belief and you try harder. Lombardi created a better team–which won its first game–by making its players see possibilities. Defeat was no longer comfortable.
This brings up an interesting point, dear reader – it is not innate talent or skill that separates out successful football teams or successful women. What makes the difference is one’s morale, what she believes is possible for herself.
Dear reader, do you honestly believe it is possible for you to become a gorgeous woman? To make a six figure salary? To have a loving and rewarding relationship or marriage?
Until you do, you will find that these things will elude you. You must train yourself and act as your own Coach Lombardi on the path to achieving your hopes, ambitions, and dreams (: