How to Make Mistakes

Why should you learn how to make mistakes, dear reader?

Because there is absolutely no avoiding them in life.  You will, without a doubt make many of them, no matter how successful you become.  Trying to dodge them is a waste of your time and energy – it is better to simply learn how to handle them gracefully.

 

“Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.” – Oprah Winfrey

 

Making mistakes or not making them isn’t the point, however.  It really doesn’t matter.  What does matter is that you understand how to use them, how to not get stuck on them, and how to respond to them in the best way possible.

 

Frances McLaughlin-Gill's vivid fashion image appeared in the April 1952 Glamour.:

 

First of all, realize that absolutely everyone makes mistakes and if someone is judging you harshly for being imperfect that is more about them than it is about you.  It’s important to admit our mistakes without getting defensive, and sincerely apologize to people for the consequences of them if necessary, but beyond that excessive blame and dwelling is not helpful.

In a turning point of the movie The Shawshank Redemption, one prisoner, Red comes to this point where he is able to admit his mistakes and find the inner strength to realize that while yes, he made those mistakes, he will never be able to go back and change the past:

 

RED
I know what you think it means. Me,
I think it’s a made-up word, a poli-
tician’s word. A word so young fellas
like you can wear a suit and tie and
have a job. What do you really want
to know? Am I sorry for what I did?

– —–

MAN
Well…are you?

RED
Not a day goes by I don’t feel
regret, and not because I’m in here
or because you think I should. I
look back on myself the way I
was…stupid kid who did that
terrible crime…wish I could talk
sense to him. Tell him how things
are. But I can’t. That kid’s long
gone, this old man is all that’s
left, and I have to live with that.
(beat)
Rehabilitated? That’s a bullshit
word, so you just go on ahead and
stamp that form there, sonny, and
stop wasting my damn time. Truth
is, I don’t give a shit.

 

Of course, your mistakes are probably not that extreme, but the point remains.  A lot of times, the mistakes people can’t move on from are the mistakes they knew were mistakes when they made them.  It doesn’t matter.  You regain your independence from the mistake when you stop trying to hide from it, when you stop denying it.  Plainly admitting it and really understanding that there is nothing to feel self-conscious or lesser about once you do that is what sets you free.

 

French bathroom.:

 

Second, it’s important to not use your mistakes as an excuse to why you can’t accomplish what you want and be who you want in life.  And no matter what sort of mistake you may have made, it is exactly that – an excuse.

You need to switch your frame of mind to understand that mistakes are normal.

They are normal because you do not know everything, and you never will know everything.  Sometimes people are wrongly influenced by those around them and become blind to the fact that the direction they are going isn’t a good one.  As long as there is something you don’t yet understand, there’s a good chance that you will try and experiment and sometimes choose incorrectly.  The key is to be honest with yourself and admit when it is you’ve done so, so that you aren’t stuck in the same pattern indefinitely.

 

 

 

 

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14 thoughts on “How to Make Mistakes

  1. For someone with a compulsion to be perfect, and to demand perfection, it takes a continual reliance on the grace of God to let go of past mistakes (mine and others) and to step boldly into new opportunities. Thanks for the reminder.

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  2. Love the post.
    It reminded me of sth a few weeks back, when I was learning a new dance and I accidentally stepped on my partner who then said: “it’s OK, ae have to let ourselves make mistakes”.
    Indeed, it is all part of the learning process 🙂

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  3. As always, your articles come at just the right time… I’ve made a terrible mistake recently, and I felt horrible immediately after, but instead of owning up to it I tried to push it off on someone else. This has given me the strength to apologize more sincerely, and I hope I can remember this for the future.

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  4. I love this!! I wrote a post just the other day on how we essentially can’t make mistakes. And I’m not saying that because mistakes are something bad (rather the contrary, as you wrote), but because we’re all natural beings, with a purpose on this planet – and as long as we’re walking our path, there’s no way we can make mistakes, right? Because it’s all meant to be, for a reason.
    You can check out the post here, if you like 🙂 https://johannarosberg.wordpress.com/2016/07/23/like-a-cloud-you-cannot-make-mistakes/

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  5. This post was good. I enjoyed the trek it gave. I must disagree on the motive of Red’s retort. He said all of that, because he’d been denied parole so many times that he gave up caring to be nice to the judges. What do they want to hear? How do they want to hear it? Nothing pleased them and he probably saw them age out of the business. The point of his rhetoric was to impress upon them they have only continually punished a person for something that is not only out of his system, but does have regret for his misdeeds. The of your post is great, and I would like to add, that whilst mistakes cannot be evaded, that doesn’t mean we need to jump head long into doing things we know not to do. Critical-Thinking can help you avoid many mistakes. Once you know it’s not wise to try something and you do it anyway, you’ve then done it on purpose. Curiosity is never a good excuse. It can’t be. If so, murder would not be punishable for first timers. Mistakes can be made up for, or corrected along the way. Anything else is just low inhibitions and selfishness.

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  6. I stumbled upon a great post today. I’m referring to this one. Two pieces, here, very encouraging. The idea of making mistakes brings about some jewels, and you are reminding us to not miss them. The dialog between Red and Parole Board is so profound. It is a great movie with so much substance. Hey, thanks for visiting my blog.

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