The feminine woman of excellence, dear reader, is first and foremost confident in who she is, what she can do for the world, what she believes in, and what she is willing to stand (or not stand) for.
However, confidence is not something she was born with.
She acquired that confidence over time, by taking risks and action, by putting herself in situations that were perhaps uncomfortable for her, at first.
Many pretend that they are confident when they don’t actually feel that way, because there is a stigma associated with being non~confident and insecure.
While it is true that it can be helpful to “fake” confidence at times when you don’t really feel it, to make true personal progress and be one of the rare, rare women who are able to come across as authentically confident in who she is, you must start by being honest with yourself and where you are at.
There is no shame in admitting to yourself or to those you trust, in what areas you don’t feel confident, because once you do you can either work through those emotions or do something to change them. As long as you avoid or pretend those areas don’t exist, you won’t be able to take any action, and taking action is what will dissolve any non~confidence or fear.
If, dear reader, you are afraid of public speaking, join a toastmasters group. Volunteer to give presentations to key clients at work. Do anything and everything you can to put yourself in that type of situation until you become comfortable, and therefore confident in it!
Confidence begins with one such small act of courage. You don’t need to give a speech addressing the U.S. Senate to begin with to start building confidence, for example. Too many women are halted and kept in states of inaction and non~progress because they can’t see or are unwilling to take the micro-actions that will eventually build them up to the larger arenas they truly wish to be at.
“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” – Arthur Ashe