The feminine woman of excellence, dear reader, has perspective in life. She has matured to the point at which she no longer sweats the “small stuff” and she doesn’t get too worked up over things.
“If I make a fool of myself, who cares? I’m not frightened by anyone’s perception of me.” – Angelina Jolie
She understands that nothing is really as big of a deal as it seems to be. Sure, she celebrates her successes and still feels the pain of loss when things don’t go her way, but she doesn’t magnify those things to the point where they stop her from progressing and cloud her vision.
“If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster and treat those two impostors just the same … Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, And—which is more—you’ll be a [Woman], my [dear]!”
To be really successful in life, dear reader, a woman must have the emotional fortitude and maturity to handle both adversity and success without vacillating too much emotionally. Again, this doesn’t mean that she’s not capable of feeling both intense happiness and intense sorrow – after all, these deep emotions are what make her human, and a woman – but she doesn’t allow them to control her. She is able to separate from them without dissociating.
Realizing that no matter what happens, that it simply isn’t as big of a deal as you are making it out to be in your mind will set you free. It will take away the self-created pressure that makes it hard for you to take any constructive action.
“Amateur performers often crack under pressure because they lose their perspective. Their fear of losing overwhelms them to the point of physical, emotional, and spiritual breakdown. The champion knows that the secret to performing well under pressure has more to do with their perception of the event than the event itself. While an amateur is telling himself that he must win, the pro is reminding herself that it’s only a game. Both performers want to win, but the pro always outperforms the amateur under pressure because she has learned how to calm her nerves by putting things into perspective. Some people claim that champions perform better than any other group under pressure. This is not true. There is an inverse relationship between pressure and performance, no matter who you are or what you do. As pressure increases, performance decreases. This occurs whether you’re Donald Trump or Donald Duck. The reason champions get better results is because they have trained themselves how to perceive the so-called pressure situation. The amateur perceives it as a threat, which triggers a fight or flight response from the mind and body. Physiologically speaking, the performer believes he is literally fighting for his life. Meanwhile, the pro has convinced herself that this situation is just a game, and nobody dies from losing a game.”